The Wedding Expo Producers

Quote of the Day

2009-12-07T11:25:00.000-08:00

Love feels no burden,
thinks nothing of trouble,
attempts what is above its strength,
pleads no excuse of impossibility...
It is therefore able to undertake all things,
and it completes many things,
and warrants them to take effect,
where he who does not love would faint and lie down.
Love is watchful and sleeping, slumbereth not.
Though weary, it is not tired;
though pressed, it is not straitened;
though alarmed, it is not confounded...

- Thomas A. Kempis -

Boot Camp Hawaii

2009-12-03T10:27:00.000-08:00

Aloha!

As a local small business owner, I'd like to introduce you to Boot Camp Hawaii. BCH is taking the next step toward helping women and men in Hawaii to get into the best shape of their lives!

I am Emily Boll, owner of Boot Camp Hawaii. My focus for the next year is to promote our fitness and health services among local brides, grooms, family, and friends who want to challenge themselves to make a healthy visible change in their lives!

Brides and grooms ultimately have a time frame in mind and that's to get fit and ready before their wedding day. I know this because I am a recent newlywed myself! During the engagement time together, most of people realize that their positive health changes will help them succeed further in maintaining their health beyond their wedding date. Also, everyone loves a little challenge and competition, right?

I hope you can join in on our upcoming event!
Please open the attachment for more details.

Sincerely,
Emily Boll

"Be Healthy, Be Fit, Be Sassy!"
Boot Camp Hawaii
(808) 255-7714
bridalbootcamphawaii@yahoo.com
URL: www.bridalbootcamphawaii.com

WORDS WOMEN USE

2009-12-01T14:51:00.000-08:00

This is something I heard on the radio a while ago. I thought it was really cute so I looked it up and saved it on my computer. I was looking through my documents the other day and thought it would be fun to post for you:

WORDS WOMEN USE:

FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

FIVE MINUTES: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five Minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

NOTHING: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

GO AHEAD: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(LOUD SIGH): This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

THAT'S OKAY: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

THANKS: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome.

WHATEVER: Is a women's way of saying F@!$ YOU!

DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT ... I GOT IT: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking, "what's wrong", for the woman's response refer to #3.

Kindness Trend

2009-11-30T11:56:00.000-08:00

More and more couples right now are incorporating a charitable element into their big day – and it’s not just celebrities who are doing this. A wave of couples everywhere are making the choice to do something generous for a good cause as part of their wedding celebration.

Weddings have always had a self-indulgent element to them, and so it’s exciting to see couples generously opening their hearts to others on their wedding day. What a wonderful way to celebrate the love they share – by sprinkling some of that love out to others by doing good.

Kindness is contagious.

With any trend, the more people see of it, the more likely they are to adopt it. But a lot of people really feel inspired by the good deeds of others. It makes them want to do something good too. When you think about it, it’s a really beautiful way for a couple to start their new life together. You've got to admit, it’s got a good vibe to it.

We predict that the kindness trend will continue to pick up momentum over the next 12 months, but unlike other trends that fade completely after reaching their peak, the concept behind this one has some staying power. Trends, by their very nature, are flaky. One day everyone’s doing a particular thing, and before long it’s never seen again. But fortunately kindness never completely goes out of style. Chances are this current trend will show people how easily charitable elements can be incorporated into weddings, and those ideas will continue to be seen at weddings long after this is no longer the ‘it’ thing of the moment.

Once people try it they find that doing something kind for others actually feels amazingly good. And that makes them want to do more of it.

On a more personal note, frankly, I wish this trend had started back when I got married in ’92. I personally have a lot of concern for the well being of animals. Looking back, making a donation in each of my guest’s names to a no-kill shelter would have been more meaningful than all those pretty little wedding favors we gave away. Sure, the favors were gorgeous, but doing something to make a difference would have been an unbeatable feeling. Unfortunately, no one thought of doing this fifteen years ago.

So why this trend at this time? Here's our theory. In recent times, we’ve witnessed a lot of really harsh realities. September 11. America at war. The Tsunami. Then Katrina. As they spend all that money on a big one-day celebration for themselves, and revel in their own happiness, a lot of caring, socially conscious couples are trying to reconcile that with the suffering many others are experiencing in these times. There may be a little pang of guilt, or simply a genuine desire to share their blessings with others who are nowhere near as fortunate.

Today more and more couples use the details of their weddings to paint an intimate self-portrait of themselves. Through the many wedding-related selections they need to make - the decor, the food, the flower, the favors - they strive to make a statement about who they are so that their wedding day becomes a meaningful reflection of themselves. Certainly, making kindess a part of their weddings or including a philantrhopic element says something very special about a couple.

More and more couples everywhere are taking the opportunity to show kindness to others when they exchange their vows. You can do this too, and we highly encourage it! Make a charitable donation in the name of each of your guests in place of traditional wedding favors. Or ask guests to make a donation to the charity of your choice, or theirs, in place of wedding gifts. Sooner or later, kindness is always returned to you, ten fold. We promise!

Here are some ideas on how you can make kindness a part of your wedding:

* In place of traditional wedding favors, make a donation to a worthwhile cause in each guest’s name. At the reception, present each guest with a small nicely printed card explaining that this has been done.

* Suggest that instead of wedding gifts, guests make a contribution to either a charity of your choosing, or a cause that is important to them. Pop star Christina Aguilera did this when she wed last December and requested that guests make donations to Hurricane Katrina victims rather than giving wedding presents. Even comic strip characters are taking a shine to this trend; the popular comic strip character Cathy also did this last year when she asked her guests (and readers of the strip) to make a donation to a particular California shelter for homeless animals!

* Some gift registry services will donate a percentage of all gifts purchased through their service to the charity of your choice – look for one that offers this.

* Make arrangements to donate food left over from the reception to a local soup kitchen or homeless shelter.

* Donate flower arrangements to local hospices or nursing homes following the wedding.

* After the wedding, donate your used wedding supplies and accessories –or even your wedding dress - to Goodwill (Goodwill Industries International) or another charitable organization that collects used goods.

Quote of the Day!

2009-11-30T11:52:00.000-08:00

"Of all actions of a man's life, his marriage does least concern other people,
yet of all actions of our life 'Tis most meddled with by other people."

John Selden
1584-1654, British Jurist, Statesman

Quote of the Day!

2009-11-05T13:00:00.000-08:00

Blessing for a Marriage
by James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite
excitement marriage should bring,
and may life grant you also patience,
tolerance, and understanding.

May you always need one another -
not so much to fill your emptiness
as to help you to know your fullness.
A mountain needs a valley to be complete;
the valley does not make
the mountain less, but more;
and the valley is more a valley because
it has a mountain towering over it.

May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another,
and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!"
and take no notice of small faults.

If you have quarrels that push you apart,
may both of you hope to have
good sense enough to take the first step back.

May you enter into the mystery which is
the awareness of one another's
presence - no more physical than spiritual,
warm and near when you are
side by side, and warm and near when
you are in separate rooms
or even distant cities.

May you have happiness,
and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

Happy Halloween

2009-10-30T14:37:00.000-07:00

Quote (poem) of the Day!

2009-10-28T12:28:00.000-07:00

That I did always love,

I bring thee proof:

That till I loved

I did not love enough.

That I shall love always,

I offer thee

That love is life,

And life hath immortality.

This, dost that doubt, sweet?

Then have I

Nothing to show

But Calvary.

Emily Dickensen

Quote of the Day!

2009-10-27T07:54:00.000-07:00

Josh McDowell:

"What you are as a single person, you will be as a married person, only to a greater degree. Any negative character trait will be intensified in a marriage relationship, because you will feel free to let your guard down -- that person has committed himself to you and you no longer have to worry about scaring him off."

Tacoma Wedding Expo florists!

2009-10-26T13:28:00.000-07:00

Always and Forever Creations

Debra’s Botanical Designs

Fife Flowers

GardenPartyToGo Romantic Wedding Flowers

Hector Auffant Designs-Cascade Floral

L & M Designs

Lola Event Floral and Design

Silence That Isn’t Golden

2009-10-26T12:02:00.000-07:00

Silence That Isn’t Golden

Originally Posted on October 21st, 2009 Richard Himmer

Some years ago my wife, Cheri and I had dinner with some friends at a little Mexican restaurant in the Proctor district in Tacoma. The food was sumptuous and my chimichanga was absolutely amazing especially considering it was fat free, at least until I ate it.

It was a blustery evening outside so after dinner we snuggled up to a fireplace conversation. It was rather mundane actually, that is until Gertie expressed some strong opinions on a political subject.

What a perfect evening this was turning out to be, a dinner and a conflict. Gertie’s strong words did not harmonize with my view and I felt excited at the potential conflict brewing in the room.

Let me interrupt my narrative for a semantic identification moment. First of all the purpose of communicating is to exchange understanding. Trying to get someone to agree with you is manipulative and contentious.

Secondly, we often confuse conflict and contention so here is my take on the two words.

Conflict is friction. It is not agreeing on the methodology but having the same goal. Conflict is to be resolved and is necessary for growth, especially within a relationship. Weight lifting is conflict to your muscles. Conflict resolution is searching for understanding at the expense of personal opinion. It is what is right and not who is right.

Contention is evil and the absence of progress. It is making conflict personal. It is not topic related but carries the intent to harm with no desire to learn. Contention is searching for agreement versus exchanging understanding. Contention is who is right at the expense of what is right.

As I commenced questioning Gertie about her point of view, she became defensive. There is no doubt my questioning skills could improve, but before I could even express a difference of opinion, we quickly went from conflict straight into contention and the conversation was over.

What happened was written all over my freckled face. The subject was changed, the air was thick, and the evening quickly turned cool. Within 15 minutes we were driving home discussing what I did wrong (because it’s usually my fault.)

I’ve had years to consider this and many other similar events in my life. It seems my questions often get things out of sorts with other folks’ perceived harmony. Why?

That’s because of the confusion associated with conflict and contention. Conflict means there is communication and progress going on. How much exchanging is being transmitted when there is a wall of silence betwixt you and the other person?

Silence isn’t golden. Silence is contention and inhibits progress. Remember the next time you lose your cookies at someone or feel offended, elongated silence damages you much more than the perceived damage of your silence does to the other.

The only exception to this rule is a parent to the child. Parental silence is more than contention, it’s abuse and childish. Grow up and learn to communicate.

Quote of the Day

2009-10-26T11:28:00.000-07:00

"You don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without."

-unknown

Quote of the Day!

2009-10-22T08:44:00.000-07:00

"Most people who meet my wife quickly conclude that she is remarkable. They are right about this. She is smart, funny and thoroughly charming. Often, after hearing her speak at some function or working with her on a project, people will approach me and say something to the effect of, you know, I think the world of you, Barack, but your wife, wow!"

Barack Obama

Diamonds ---Getting the Most for Your Money

2009-10-21T10:17:00.000-07:00

Diamonds ---Getting the Most for Your Money

Have you been together as a couple for a while now? Have you seen your romance grow into love and mutual respect? Do you communicate deeply and solve conflicts together? Do you want to be with your partner for the rest of your life? Is it time to start looking for a diamond?

When buying a diamond there are steps you can take to ensure that you get the most for your money. There are great values to be found in today’s marketplace if you can navigate through all the pitfalls. Take to heart the following do’s and don’ts .

Define A Budget

As a couple discuss and decide on what you want for an engagement ring and what you can afford to spend on that ring.

Ask Your Friends And Family for Jewelers That They Trust

Make two or three of the top names your starting place. Go to and interact with each company to see if they are right for you.

Resolve To Take Your Time

Diamond education is vitally important to getting a great looking diamond at the best price. Don’t try to get by with what appears to be easy deals. Take your time and do not make a spur of the moment “emotional” decision. Be patient, do your homework and learn to be able to tell whether or not a seller is looking out for your benefit.

Get As Educated As Possible About Diamonds

Learn and understand the 4C’s of Diamond Grading---Color, Clarity, Carat Weight and Cut. Find a store that will actually show you the 4C’s using diamond grading equipment and not just talk about them.

Shopping For And Buying A Loose Diamond Will Save You Money

Make sure you purchase your diamond loose not mounted. If it is mounted it is impossible to accurately determine the Color, Clarity, Carat Weight or Cut of the diamond and to know if you are getting good value.

Perceiving Diamond Color Will Save You Money

If you can see the different diamond color grades side-by-side then you can determine just what colors will work for you. Very tiny differences in diamond color can make a difference in value of hundreds or thousands of dollars. By seeing the diamond color grades you can decide to spend your money on a higher color or to save some money by purchasing a lower color grade.

Perceiving Diamond Clarity Will Save You Money

If you can see what the different diamond clarity grades look like under a binocular microscope then you can determine just what clarities will work for you. Very tiny differences in diamond clarity can make a difference in value of hundreds or thousands of dollars. By seeing the diamond clarity grades you can decide to spend your money on a higher clarity or to save some money by purchasing a lower clarity grade.

Knowing How Diamond Carat Weight Affects Value Will Save You Money

Small differences in diamond carat weight can make a difference in value of hundreds or thousands of dollars. For example, a 1.35 ct diamond approaches the size of a 1.50 ct but costs substantially less for the same Shape, Color, Clarity and Cut. Knowing this can help you to get the look that you want for less.

Knowing Diamond Cut Will Let You Choose Between Beauty and Saving Money

Small differences in Diamond Cut---the inter-related proportions and angles of a stone make a huge difference in both how beautiful a diamond is and in its value. A poorly cut diamond may be up to 50% less expensive but it will not be as beautiful and will have less brilliance, fire and scintillation.

Considering Fancy Shape Diamonds Will Save You Money

All of the Fancy Shape Diamonds are less expensive than a Round Brilliant Cut Diamond---all things being equal. Some fancy shapes are the Princess Cut, the Marquise Cut, the Oval Shape, the Heart Shape, the Pear Shape, the Radiant Cut, the Emerald Cut, the Asscher Cut and the Cushion Cut. Within each of these shapes you can find some examples that are very beautiful and many examples that are not beautiful.

Find The Company Who Will Work To Provide You With Your Perfect Stone

You want to spend your budget on a beautiful diamond with the qualities that is important to you. Everyone will have their own perception as to what is a good diamond. Some may want a high quality, Super Ideal Cut diamond, while others want a very nice looking near ideal cut diamond that is clean to the naked eye, whitish in color, and as large as they can afford. Others may prefer a different shape, Princess, Marquise, Oval, Heart, Cushion, etc.

You should find a jeweler that will listen to your preferences and help you find a beautiful diamond with the qualities that are perfect for you.

If you follow these shopping tips you will purchase a beautiful diamond at a great price. It will be a diamond that you will forever cherish as you move forward with your life together. We wish you the best.

Quote of the Day!

2009-10-20T14:50:00.000-07:00

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the wedding cup,
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up.

- Ogden Nash

Inviting Change

2009-10-20T11:31:00.000-07:00

Inviting Change

Dare to be different! More and more bridal couples are looking to fashion for inspiration for their wedding invitations, going "Couture". Jon Lacar of Evergreen Invitations, www.evergreeninvitations.com explains this trend:

Couture, a term originally stemmed from the fashion world, basically means custom designing using unique and high-end materials. These are not your ordinary paper invites. A typical couture invitation can include rhinestone buckles, crystal embellishments, designer papers, and rich fabrics. They are also usually housed in a luxurious stationery box or enclosure. The greatest part is that there are limitless custom design options and the outcome is having a beautiful keepsake to serve as a memento for the special event. A step further also goes into the type of printing such as using letterpress (impression text) or thermography (raised text). All of these put together make an invitation that is exclusive, unique, and eye-catching.

Brides and grooms who want to take their invitations a step up to the next level will enjoy what couture invitations has to offer. Couture invitations can serve a wide variety of tastes. For example, a beach wedding would extend its theme into the invitations by including embellishments such as seashells and starfish accessories, whereas an elegant affair will call for rhinestone jewels and sumptuous ribbons. An invitation using these little hints gives the guests a feel for the atmosphere and a exciting glimpse of your special day.

The prior mentality that invitations will just be thrown away are no longer amongst today's brides and grooms. Attention to finer design details in a couture invitation will make your guests feel as if they were receiving a gift as well. Brides and grooms are often on the hunt for something new, unique, and different. Custom designed couture invitations will provide just that. They definitely will stand out compared to commonplace invitations and give your big day a special feel.

Quote of the Day!

2009-10-19T11:10:00.000-07:00

"A little girl at the wedding afterwards asked her mother why the bride changed her mind. What do you mean? responded her mother. Well, she went down the aisle with one man, and came back with another."

Source Unknown

Decorating trends

2009-10-19T11:07:00.000-07:00

Wendy Balidoy of Spinning W.E.B. Florist, www.spinningwebflorist.com, offers ideas on decorating:

Well...there are alot of new trends that we are seeing, and of course, everyone wants the most bang for their buck.

Black seems to be BIG.....black rocks lining pathways...black chandeliers suspended above, black vases, black accents in bouquets.... and feathers, lots of feathers! Peacock feathers, which look fantastic with black accents are in demand. White ostrich plumes are also very popular.

Brides are looking for options rather than the "rose", we found that green cymbidiums were in for the past two years...but this year and for next year..its calla lilies!

Large vase rentals are very popular, especially for our destination brides who want "the look" but

do not want the hassle of lugging them home.... These large vases can be a dual purpose expense. They can line the isle to the alter, and be quickly moved to the guest tables during the reception or couple's cocktail hour.

Flowers, Baubles & Beads

2009-10-16T11:46:00.000-07:00

Flowers, Baubles & Beads

Floral arrangements have come along way, and now can include feathers, beads, rhinestones and other "bling" that adds texture and color.

Terrie Easley, of Terrie Easley Designs www.easleydesigns.com, shares some of the trends she's seeing:

No matter the circumstances, weddings still are visions that a Bride and Groom have had for years as to what that special day will be like when it becomes a reality. Especially the Bride! It must be her dream day from the beginning to the end with the groom’s favorite part being…”the ultimate honeymoon.” When there is a budget established, it is sometimes altered when an idea is introduced that seems to “just be too good to pass up”.

There are so many new items on the wedding market. The wristlet bands are with beads, crystals, pearls, and rhinestones. The boutonnieres have pewter, or metal holders as does the bouquet holders. New types of ribbons, new arbors and arches made of bamboo or willow are choices of many couples getting married outdoors.

Being in business for 30 some years, I can honestly say that though there are newer trends, the old traditional with just a touch of new ideas is still the choice of most couples when it comes to floral designs. It comes full circle as most things do.

Wendy Balidoy of Spinning W.E.B. Florist, www.spinningwebflorist.com, offers more details:

Well...there are alot of new trends that we are seeing, and of course, everyone wants the most bang for their buck.

Brides are looking for options rather than the "rose", we found that green cymbidiums were in for the past two years...but this year and for next year..its calla lilies!

Large vase rentals are very popular, especially for our destination brides who want "the look" but

Quote of the Day

2009-10-16T07:56:00.000-07:00

"One of the first things a relationship therapist learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the purpose of using up energy, so that the couple do not have to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of familiarity into which you can retreat when you are afraid of making a creative breakthrough."

Gay Hendricks

Flowers and Lighting?!

2009-10-15T11:45:00.000-07:00

Light it UP!

Floral arrangements add beauty and romance to a wedding and the reception, but what if you want something .... well, something MORE? You light it.

Terrie Easley provides some details:

There is a service that has come up recently that is growing in the industry of weddings and events. The Backdrop and lighting for the reception ballroom is now on the list of “must have”. The backdrop and the colored lighting add an ambiance truly to be remembered. This backdrop is usually behind the headtable or wherever the most attention will be focused. With crystals, mirrors, beads, or even feathers hanging from the draping, it looks glorious with lighting directed from below to illuminate the “bling” even more.

The lighting can be of the wedding color as can the beads or feathers. The ballroom lights can be dimmed to make the lighting even more spectacular when the guests walk in. Day weddings can still use backdrops/draping with the beading, crystals, etc. showing as gloriously behind an elegantly floral decked headtable. Gone are the lattice screens, the potted plants and nothings…the backdrop is here and a growing demand.

Quote of the Day

2009-10-15T06:49:00.000-07:00

"Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day."

Barbara De Angelis

Common Bride Mistakes

2009-10-14T11:37:00.000-07:00

According to a recent survey of wedding professionals brides tend to make the same mistakes over and over: Here is a list of their responses~

1. They rely on too many opinions....too much input!

2. They have unrealistic expectations

3. They don't hire wedding professionals...they try to cut cost by having friends or family help out. This causes chaos and stress.

4. They don't create or use a good timeline/checklist

5. They don't read the contracts provided by wedding professionals

6. They don't realize the ceremony is for the bride but the reception is for the parents/guests

7. They don't find out what flowers are in season

8. They don't have 1 point person to fall back on, or run interference for the bride on the wedding day!

It’s My Money

2009-10-14T11:33:00.000-07:00

It’s My Money

Richard Himmer

My wife and I attended a recent Bridal show at the Tacoma Dome to discuss our system for helping newlyweds improve the odds that their marriage will last. Some folks were very interested; others were kind but were not.

The most interesting were the very opinionated brides to be when asked, “Do you have a Spending Plan?” Their almost agitated responses proved insightful:

“I have my money and he has his. He’ll never know how much. As long as he buys his socks and underwear, we’re fine.”

The first time I heard the comment the shock factor caught me off guard. The scary aspect of my Bridal show experience was that I heard similar responses all day long.

Experts at the University of Washington can now predict with 98% accuracy the probability of a marriage lasting. They cite 4 criteria in determining if the couple will stay married. They are affectionately called the 4 Horseman:

Defensiveness
Stonewalling
Criticism
Contempt

Of the four, contempt is the most important indicator. They have determined that predicting divorce is a function of patterns. If one partner speaks with contempt, it is an indicator of potential problems.

“It’s my money and that’s they way it is,” is speaking with contempt.

The purpose of getting married is to become one. In over 20 years in the financial business, it’s rare for a couple with separate accounts to become one.

Two strikes before they even say, “I do!”

I’d wish you good luck, but you’re going to need a lot more than that.

Quote of the Day!

2009-10-14T10:29:00.000-07:00

"Many people spend more time in planning the wedding than they do in planning the marriage."

Zig Ziglar
American Sales Trainer, Author, Motivational Speaker

A few things if you are getting married in Hawaii!

2009-10-14T10:17:00.000-07:00

Favorite Things, A Bit of This and That

You want your wedding day to be memorable, not just for you, for your guests as well. Sumptuous nibbles or take away centerpieces will give your guests a reason to remember.

Menehune Mac, http://www.menehunemac.com, offers this helpful advice:

Finding just the right wedding favor in a sea of same old, same old can be a difficult task. Lucky for us, chocolates are still the #1 choice followed by nibbler size cookies, gourmet salts, couture cupcakes and loose leaf teas.

Go Green! Editable items in “green” containers are huge this year. Reusable cloth bags, handkerchief wraps and recyclable containers are eco-friendly and make thoughtful mementos.

Couples are also incorporating locally grown foods into their buffet tables and search for wedding products and services in their area to support the local economy.

Go Bold! Don’t be afraid to try hues of hot pink, apple green or vibrant orange in your favor boxes, bows and decorations. Bold colors will make your pictures pop and tablescape romantic and elegant.

Use wedding trends as ideas not rules. It’s your wedding day, do what you want and be creative.

Quote of the Day

2009-10-13T05:54:00.000-07:00

"My wife has been my closest friend, my closest advisor. And ... she's not somebody who looks to the limelight, or even is wild about me being in politics. And that's a good reality check on me. When I go home, she wants me to be a good father and a good husband. And everything else is secondary to that."

Barack Obama

Tips for choosing a reception location:

2009-10-12T12:10:00.000-07:00

*Begin your search right after you've settled on a head count. Book your reception site 9 to 12 months in advance.

*Seek recommendations from friends, family members and coworkers—anyone whose opinion you trust. And, chat with brides in your area.

*Before making appointments with site managers, request the following over the phone:

availability on your wedding date
food and beverage options on premise
number of guests the venue can accommodate
parking options
accessibility for handicapped guests
number of events the venue will hold simultaneously

*Narrow down your list of sites, based on the phone interviews, and schedule site tours. Bring a notebook and pencil, and write down answers to your questions.

*Tour the entire facility, including bathrooms and kitchens. Note the quality of the lighting, and the availability and positioning of electrical outlets (for your band or DJ).

*Make sure the site's decor and ambience complement the style and colors of your wedding.

*If the site has an in-house caterer, schedule a meeting to discuss menu options and a tasting.

The Four Horseman

2009-10-12T10:39:00.000-07:00

The Four Horseman
2009 Richard Himmer

John Gottman, PhD. from the University of Washington has done amazing work and research on marriage over the past few decades and has identified four key problems that lead to divorce. He calls them the Four Horseman of the Apocalypse.

The four problems are: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling.

Dr. Gottman explains that contempt for a partner is the most crucial indicator of divorce. He can predict with 95% accuracy if a couple will divorce after watching them for only 15 minutes.

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are a metaphor depicting the end of the world. They are described as conquest, war, hunger, and death.

Many believe that conflict leads to divorce, but conflict itself is not the problem. It is how we handle it. Conflict is a problem, however, when accompanied by the presence of what Dr. Gottman calls the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:”

1. Criticism involves attacking your partner’s personality or character, rather than focusing on the specific behavior that bothers you.

Following the Board of Director’s agenda and the Responsibility Pyramid when communicating eliminates criticism from the equation.

2. Contempt is the step that has the greatest predictability factor. It is worse than criticism and involves tearing down or being insulting toward your partner. Contempt is an open sign of disrespect. Examples of contempt include: putting down your spouse, rolling your eyes or sneering, or tearing down the other person with so-called “humor.”

When a relationship starts with love and the proper love language is used, contempt is minimized. Seeing the vision of intimacy as the end result can alter the level of contempt or eliminate it.

3. Defensiveness. Adopting a defensive stance in the middle of conflict may be a natural response, but does not help the relationship. When a person is defensive, he or she often experiences a great deal of tension and has difficulty tuning into what is being said. Denying responsibility, making excuses, or meeting one complaint with another are all examples of defensiveness.

Using a BOD meeting in an environment where it’s not who is right but what is right will remove the need to be defensive. There is no hierarchy in a BOD meeting. The Responsibility Pyramid is part of the rules of engagement and if there is no blaming or justifying, there is no need to be defensive.

4. Stonewalling. People who stonewall simply refuse to respond. This is the man cave or the chick hut. Occasional stonewalling can be healthy, but as a typical way of interacting, stonewalling during conflict can be destructive to the marriage. Stonewalling is an abrupt stop to progress. Men tend to engage in stonewalling much more often than women do.

We have been conditioned to enter our man caves or chick huts from an early age. Getting out of a man cave requires willingness, knowledge, and skill. Reading a book isn’t the same as developing the skill.

All couples will engage in these types of behaviors at some point in their marriage, but when the four horsemen take permanent residence, the relationship has a high probability of failing.

In fact, Gottman’s research reveals that the chronic presence of these four factors in a relationship can be used to predict, with over 80% accuracy, which couples will eventually divorce. When attempts to repair the damage done by these horsemen are met with repeated rejection, Gottman says there is over a 90% chance the relationship will end in divorce.

We go to college for many years so we can become wealthy. How much time and effort do we expend into becoming happy?

Balanced Living Family, Balanced Living from the Start, Coaches, Divorce, Marriage, Newlyweds Chick Hut, Contempt, Criticism, Dr. John Gottman, Man Cave, The Four Horsemen

Marriage Quote of the Day!

2009-10-12T06:42:00.000-07:00

Robert C. Dodds:

"The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together."

Marriage Quote of the Day

2009-10-10T08:36:00.000-07:00

Ogden Nash:

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong admit it;
Whenever you're right shut up.

Wedding Quote for the Day!

2009-10-09T11:18:00.000-07:00

"I dreamed of a wedding of elaborate elegance; a church filled with flowers and friends. I asked him what kind of wedding he wished for; he said one that would make me his wife."

Source Unknown

Winter flowers for your wedding!

2009-10-08T13:43:00.000-07:00

Hi,

With Fall upon us and winter not too far behind, we thought it would be nice to know what flowers are in season for the winter. Some flowers such as the poinsettia at Christmastime, or roses in February can get very expensive. So if you want beautiful flowers that are not as expensive, here are some flowers that are in season and likely to be less expensive.

Amaryllis is a winter flower that is usually available in red and white and is a great low cost alternative for Valentine’s Day weddings.

The Anemone is a star like flower that is usually in season in the first part of the winter, before January and is usually available in blue, red, and pink or white.

Daffodils are yellow, and are usually in season from January until June.

Blue Forget-me-nots are a great choice for a Jack Frost/Fairy theme wedding

Holly is an absolute must for Christmas weddings, and is very inexpensive during the Christmas season.

Many people don’t realize that Jasmine is a winter flower, and Jasmine can be a wonderfully fragrant choice to add romance to your wedding. Consider using jasmine and a few red roses for a Valentine’s Day wedding.

The Star of Bethlehem is a lovely white winter flower that can be used as inexpensive decoration filler.

Tulips are in season from December until the end of April and come in many different vibrant colors like pink, white, red, purple, and other colors that are very appropriate for winter weddings.

Marriage Quote of the Day!

2009-10-08T13:04:00.000-07:00

"The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make -- not just on your wedding day, but over and over again -- and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife."

Barbara De Angelis
American Expert on Relationship & Love, Author

2010 Wedding Trends

2009-10-07T14:22:00.000-07:00

Here are some wedding trends for the New Year that we have found: Weddings for next year are all about relaxed glamour.

Wedding dresses have taken a more elegant and sophisticated feel to their designs. Many wedding dress designs feature bodices with origami inspired fluting and pleated details. Retro styles continue with 50’s chic being a key look with shorter fuller skirts, birdcage veils and pill box hats. (think Jackie Kennedy) Also in style are close fit bodice dresses with longer flowing skirts.

This year has also seen the return of the ball gown with dresses having large and very full skirts. Other hot trends include oversized details such as big bows and corsages and plenty of asymmetric layering.

The 2009 wedding trends continue with an emphasis on dream weddings on a budget as the global recession continues. Low key venues will be the location of the choice including private gardens and so called backyard weddings. The emphasis really is on having a low budget but glamorous and understated wedding.

Wedding favors will be homemade and simple creations for expressing thanks and love.

Bridesmaids will finally come to relish the 2010 wedding trends as finally they get to choose their own outfits. The trend will be for mismatched bridesmaids dresses, who will get to choose their own dresses and accessories according to a color chosen by the bride.

2010 may also see many couples choosing short engagements and thus ending the traditional long engagement period. (think Kardashian) Elopements and destination weddings, and spur of the moment nuptials planned in double quick time, will also be the name of the game of 2010.!

Do Words Have Meaning Anymore?

2009-10-06T12:59:00.000-07:00

Do Words Have Meaning Anymore?

Posted on October 1st, 2009 Richard Himmer

Within each culture there are certain words that carry a specific meaning known only to the aborigines and veterans of that culture.

For example, in the German culture if you point to the temple on your head with your index finger, you are expressing the same sentiment in German as if you were to extend the middle finger high in the air here in the states.

In Germany, Switzerland, or Austria, if you were to ask the question: “How are you today,” be prepared to listen to an answer. Here, expect to hear one word that carries no meaning. Something like, fine.

What does fine mean? What does good mean? How about “All things considered, I’m doing well.”

Have you ever muttered under your breath while attending a rock concert how much you’d like to play the guitar or the keyboards? How truthful are those words? Do you really mean what you say?

Try an experiment today. Pay specific attention to the words your friends and co-workers use when conversing with each other. Notice how ambiguous their statements are.

We have mastered such words as: that’s interesting, we’ll see, I might, perhaps or maybe.

The ‘Good Book’ councils us to say “yea, yea” and “nay, nay.” What does that mean? Is it possible that our language aptitude has an impact upon our happiness quotient? I don’t know about you, but my purpose for existence is to be happy and have joy?

Improving our ability to effectively communicate will eliminate misunderstandings and hurt feelings. In sales, assumed closes are a tool that leverages ambiguity and puts the person being sold to in an uncomfortable situation.

Assuming there is understanding is like saying I want to play the guitar but never taking lessons or even owning a guitar.

What do your words mean?

Most people have a strong desire to communicate effectively.

Some people have the basic knowledge of communication tools that are helpful. Knowledge is obtained through study and taking courses.

Very few people possess the necessary skills. The skills are acquired through coaching and practice.

Just wanting to improve your communication is not enough.

Coaching, Communication, Family, Marriage Effective Communication, Meaning of Words, Words

January 2010 Expo line-up!

2009-10-06T11:42:00.001-07:00

January 2-3, 2010	Tacoma Wedding Expo WA - Washington
January 9-10, 2010	Portland-Vancouver Wedding Expo OR - Oregon
January 9-10, 2010	Seattle Wedding Expo WA - Washington
January 22-24, 2010	Hawaii Bridal Expo - January HI - Hawaii
January 30-31, 2010	Lynnwood-Everett Wedding Expo WA - Washington

Co-owner of Bridesclub/ Buckles Productions is on twitter!

2009-10-05T13:58:00.000-07:00

Follow Heather Buckles on twitter:

http://twitter.com/heatherbuckles

Bridal Show Experiences...

2009-10-05T12:15:00.000-07:00

Here is a letter we received regarding the Expo in Hawaii in July 2009:

I just attended your wedding expo last weekend - there were eight of us that flew in to attend the expo to prepare for my daughter's wedding in May 2010.

It was such a wonderful event, I asked a vendor for a contact address so I could email and tell you how much we appreciated the expo. What fantastic vendors, so generous with their time and expertise. We came away with brochures and business cards and so many marvelous ideas and options.

We spent several hours there. We particularly liked the models in wedding dresses that circled during the expo. It was so helpful to be able to see each dress up close and touch the fabrics and ask the models to turn, etc. You just can't do that with a runway show. Also, the models were wonderfully patient with us. This actually helped us determine the designer and style for my daughter's wedding dress.

The sample wedding table settings and wedding decoration vendors were also very helpful in planning a theme for the wedding - again wonderful displays and very professional vendors. Even though we do not reside locally, we made contacts we'll be using for the wedding here at our location.

Again, thank you so much for a wonderful event. I just had to write and say I think everyone did an amazing job!

An appreciative mom,
Daria

Quick Tips for wedding planning

2009-10-02T13:45:00.000-07:00

There are so many things to consider when planning a wedding. We thought we would help out by giving some wedding tips and advice from people's personal experience with weddings. These wedding tips and advice can help you execute your planning efforts flawlessly the first time.

Your wedding day is a special event for many reasons. First and, most important, two special people are joining together to become one in matrimony. Secondly, it is a time for friends and family members to get together and celebrate. That is why it is so important that the day is as perfect as it possibly can be. (Also, it is helpful to realize there is a bigger picture involved than "perfection". Try to remember the perfection you are achieving above all else is the commitment to love another person more than you love yourself.) But here are a few wedding tips to help you make their wedding day a complete success.

Plan As Much In Advance as Possible

For those who are able to do so, planning in advance as much as possible is a great idea. (My husband and I were only engaged for 3 months--so there are ways around the plan way ahead thing.) Those couples who plan their wedding day spectacular in advance will find that not only will they be able to reserve the desired locations and obtain the perfect wedding day necessities, they will also be much more relaxed when the big day approaches. Planning in advance allows the individuals to feel prepared and prevent them from being rushed to get everything completed in time for their wedding day.

Make a Wedding Checklist... or Purchase One (you can also download one free from www.bridesclub.com)

Another wedding tip for ensuring wedding day success is to prepare a list or buy a pre-made one which displays all that the couple needs to do in order to make their wedding day complete. Items such as reception hall rental, ceremony location rental, wedding attire purchases, flower purchases, etc. are just some of the things which the couple should have on their checklist. Many wedding preparation books which one can purchase at a bookstore will have lists of this type within them as well as a detailed time line for when the couple should complete each task. This really helps the couple get their schedule together and complete everything fully and on time. There are things that will be listed that you won't have thought of...that is very helpful!

Prepare a Budget

An engaged couple who is about to start planning their wedding should sit down together and prepare a set budget to follow along the way. This can be done by looking at their total income, deciding who will be paying for what items or if it is a collective arrangement and allotting certain funds to specific purchases. This will provide the couple with a good financial plan to follow so that they can adequately spend certain amounts on each item and not be short of funds at the end. Don't overspend...starting a marriage off in debt will not be fun.

Ask for Help

Keep in mind that the engaged couple does not have to do this alone. It is more than okay to ask friends and family members for help with regard to the planning aspect of the wedding should they feel it necessary to do so. Things such as flower choices, wedding gown selections and even asking for help decorating the church or reception hall is fine and the friends and family members whom the couple asks to help with their wedding planning are sure to say yes to help make the day as special as possible.

Secret Tips and Tricks to a Happy Marriage

2009-10-02T13:01:00.000-07:00

Secret Tips and Tricks to a Happy Marriage

Posted by: Richard Himmer

Why are those words so alluring?

The most successful couples seldom read articles with those words in the title. Such articles are for couples who are either struggling or do not comprehend that a successful marriage cannot be obtained with a few tricks.

There are no secret tips. There are no magic tricks. A happy marriage starts with love and ends with intimacy. The catalyst to making it work is the ability to develop trust. It’s the accumulation of good habits overriding the bad habits you developed before marriage.

You can’t read a book and think that your frustrations with your marriage will disappear. Without skill development your willingness and knowledge will be subject to trial and error. Skill development usually comes in the form of coaching and being held accountable.

Trial and error works but are you willing to pay the price when available systems can eliminate the cost and heartache associated with the self-help approach?

Most couples, when interviewed, want wealth and happiness and they spend years of time and thousands of dollars getting an education so they can become wealthy. But, how much time, energy, and money is spent to become happy?

One out of two marriages end in divorce. That means if you and your friend are getting married this year, one of you won’t make it longer than five years. In other words, the odds are 50% that you won’t be happy and that will have a huge impact upon your wealth.

We think there is a solution.

Balanced Living from the Start, Coaches, Communication Happy Marriage, Tips and Tricks, Wealth and Happiness

Bridal Shower Ideas!

2009-09-21T12:47:00.000-07:00

Some Bridal Shower Ideas:

Lingerie Shower

Everybody brings and wears an article of clothing that is associated with sleep ware. e.g. pajamas, nightgowns, slips, teddies. Put your sense of humor to work if you wish to! For whatever you are bringing, give one to the Bride too as a gift.

Romantic Shower

Present the Bride with items that will inspire romance in her married life. The Groom would approve of scented candles, candle holders, satin bed sheets, champagne, bath bubbles, aromatherapy products, his-and-hers massage vouchers at the spa.

Sweet Memories Shower

All guests take their turn to tell a story of how they met the Bride, their special moments together, the disappointments they may have shared. All these to be recorded and put together with photographs in a scrapbook for the Bride to cherish for the rest of her life.

The Practical Household Shower

As the title suggests....be practical and bring gifts that will stock up the Couple’s new home. Some examples may be VCR’s, picture frames, coffee makers, clocks. Everyone can also chip in and buy the Couple a fridge. Make sure a list is made prior to this to eliminate duplicated gifts.

Music Shower

Let music be the theme of the bridal shower. Everyone brings a few CD’s and play their favorite songs for the Bride. Make sure there is a CD Player and get a list beforehand of the tunes that will be played.

Wine Shower

Have all your guests bring a bottle of wine each and find out that nothing makes you bolder as you play "Truth or Dare". Go ahead, whine (pun intended) about the other sex while you are at it. That’s the whole fun of a bridal shower.

The above are just some suggestions. Come up with your own shower theme and you will find that an evening with the girls is the best way to celebrate a good friend’s upcoming marriage.

A fun Wedding Favor idea!

2009-09-21T12:04:00.000-07:00

A Candy Bar

For an extra sweet favor, treat your guests to a slew of different kinds of colorful candies on their way out.

To make your own candy bar, simply choose candies in your theme. Look online for special colored candies. Then place them in large vases and hurricanes of different shapes and sizes.

Remember to go all out with the candy -- you don't want to have a wimpy-looking candy bar!

Lynnwood Wedding Expo

2009-09-17T10:30:00.000-07:00

Plan to join us for the Lynnwood Wedding Expo: September 26th and 27th
@ the Lynnwood Convention Center. 10-5 Saturday and 11-4 on Sunday!

Informal fashion show modeling daily:
Models will be roaming the floor of the Expo modeling the latest fashions from Davids Bridal, Proms and Promises, Private Label Brides Outlet, and Lorraine Layman. Don't forget the Men: Men's Wearhouse and Tux Shop!

Look for a coupon in the Sunday Everett Herald! and on http://www.bridesclub.com

Over 75 booths to look at, sample, and provide information for your wedding planning!

Expos

2009-09-14T13:57:00.000-07:00

Thank you to everyone, exhibitors and brides to be, that attended and helped make the Tacoma Fall Wedding Expo a success.

If you still have shopping to do: Come see us at the Lynnwood Expo on September 26th and 27th at the Lynnwood Convention Center. 3711 196th St SW; Lynnwood, WA 98036

More info and tickets at http://www.bridesclub.com

Thanks!

Show link on Bridesclub:
http://www.bridesclub.com/bridal-shows/lynnwood-everett-fall-wedding-expo.cfm

Tacoma Fall Wedding Expo

2009-09-10T07:48:00.000-07:00

Tacoma Fall Wedding Expo this weekend!

Tacoma Dome Exhibition Hall; Saturday and Sunday

9:30am-5pm; 10:30am-4pm

Fashion Shows daily

2 for 1 coupons available @ http://www.bridesclub.com/

See you there!

Puppy Dogs and Men

2009-09-09T12:50:00.000-07:00

Puppy Dogs and Men

2009 Richard Himmer

During a conversation with my wife the other day, Cheri commented that men are just like puppy dogs. Since I’m not fully comfortable being compared to the four-legged animal kingdom, I asked for clarification. She smiled and explained: “Dogs are pleasers. They want their masters to be happy.”

She’s right. I am a pleaser. I don’t like it when my wife is angry with me. I want to make her happy and I don’t like the doghouse. I prefer my wife’s bed, just like my dog.

When we (husband and wife) take the time to talk about important items, we discover we both want the same things. What doesn’t make sense is how often a husband or a wife will act in such a way that elicits the exact opposite reaction needed to accomplish the goal.

This is called collusion. The art of doing the exact opposite of what I want.

We have found the best way to avoid collusion is by having a BOD meeting. The next time you find yourself in collusion with your spouse or child or anyone,

STOP, DROP, and ROLL.

Stop what you are doing. (Discontinue the fight, the discussion, the dialogue.)

Drop your argument completely. (No excuses, no explanations, no blaming.)

Roll the discussion into a BOD meeting to protect yourself from making matters worse. (Put the topic on your agenda and handle it in such a way that gives you the highest probability of working out a win/win scenario.)

10 tips for managing Wedding Stress

2009-09-08T18:52:00.000-07:00

10 tips for managing Wedding Stress

1. Expect Stress: Try to plan and then respond to issues as they

come up. If you have planned, you will be less likely to react instead of respond.

2. Set realistic expectations: You cannot please everyone!

3. Don't expect perfection! Expect a "terrific" day...

4. Try meditation or visualization if you are feeling particular

pressure or stress about an event or element of your wedding

5. Take a walk! Exercise is the best way to combat stress.

6. You know those people who are really good at pushing your

buttons? Limit your time with them, or stay away from them

during extremely stressful times.

7. Take a break and do something fun together if you and

your fiancé reach your stress threshold.

8. Be aware that if your parents are acting a little strange

it could be "separation anxiety". It can be hard to let go.

9. Do not try to do everything yourself. Delegate to people

you can trust.

10. Don't forget to spend extra time on your relationship during the

planning process.

Planning the wedding is important, of course, but it is a minute

 compared to the lifetime you will be together.

Seattle Times Ad

2009-09-04T12:56:00.000-07:00

Hey~

If you are looking for a coupon to the Tacoma Fall Wedding Expo check out our ad in the Sunday 9/6/09 Seattle Times!

Also, coupons are available on www.bridesclub.com

See you there!

Vivid Images Photography, LLC promotion

2009-09-03T12:57:00.000-07:00

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You Married Perfection

2009-09-03T12:44:00.000-07:00

Have you ever wondered what would happen if a perfect man married a perfect woman?

I'll wager that he would shoot her inside of a week if she didn't strangle him first.

The story is told of a husband, who after three months of marriage, sat down to dinner with his wife and said: "I think it's time we discussed some needed areas of improvement in our marriage. I'll like to share a list of things you can improve on and then you can share your ideas with me."

The wife sat down and gathered her thoughts. As her husband started to read his list, she held up her hand and said:

"Before you start, I want you to know that I don't have a list of things you need to work on, I'm very pleased with the person I married. The next thing you should know is that the weaknesses your about to illustrate are the very things that prevented me from marrying someone better than you. Okay, now I'm ready."

Still looking for a wedding dress?

2009-09-02T13:27:00.000-07:00

Are you still looking for a wedding dress? We have several gown shops that will be at the Expo in Tacoma on September 12th and 13th.

Brides By Demetrios
David’s Bridal
Group USA
Princess Bride Couture
Proms & Promises
The Wedding Bell
Weddings with Joy

Some have booth displays but others will be having a gown sale at the Expo. Come prepared to try on...or even purchase...your dream dress.

Fashion Shows daily.

Lobby Booths at the Tacoma Fall Wedding Expo

2009-09-01T14:30:00.000-07:00

Here are some companies you will see in the lobby at the Tacoma Wedding Expo on September 12 and 13th.

Lobby hours begin at 9:30...1/2 hour before main floor opens:

J & J Photography http://www.jenandjody.com

Wine and Roses Country Estate http://www.wineandrosescountryestate.com/

Leu Jam Productions http://www.leujam.com

Celebrity Cake Studios http://www.celebritycakestudio.com

Events With Integrity http://www.ewihome.com

Studio 6 http://www.studio6now.com

Men's Wearhouse http://www.menswearhouse.com

Carlson Wagonlit Travel http://www.travelcenter4u.com

Weddings With Joy http://www.weddingswithjoy.com

Fun Idea for your Reception

2009-09-01T12:36:00.000-07:00

Fun Idea for your Reception

~ Assign someone to snap pictures of guests as they arrive at the reception using an instant camera.

~After the wedding, sign each photo, add your wedding date, and include a short word of thanks to each guest for having attended.

~Mail the photos to the guests along with your thank-you cards as an extra special memento.

David's Bridal blog

2009-09-01T09:45:00.000-07:00

Hi,

A bride deserves to have all of her wedding day dreams come true, but finding the perfect wedding dress and complimenting accessories can be stressful! To ensure a stunning and carefree walk down the aisle, Angelique Serrano, Latina magazine Fashion and Beauty Director and David’s Bridal Style Council member, is sharing her expert advice on how to pick the right dress for every body type and accessorize it with all the right touches.

Angelique has an exclusive video podcast live on the David’s Bridal blog, www.blogs.davidsbridal.com, that makes finding a gorgeous wedding day look easier and more affordable than ever! From beautiful hues and figure-flattering styles to veils and heavenly headpieces, Angelique will show brides-to-be how to stylishly weave all the key elements together. Closely monitoring the fashion industry for Latina and as the former Director for the New York Fashion and Beauty Center, Angelique is always in the know about the latest fashion trends.

If this is something that you or your readers may be interested in, please check out the blog or visit You Tube to view Angelique’s podcast.Please let me know if you’d like any additional information on the David’s Bridal Style Council or Angelique Serrano.

Thanks!

Best,
Catherine

Maid of Honor Duties

2009-08-31T13:58:00.000-07:00

1.Host or Co-host a bridal shower with the help of the other bridesmaids and/or the bride's mother, sisters, etc.

2.Help the bride choose her dress and shop for bridesmaid dresses. (The Wedding Expos is the perfect place for this one!)

3.Make sure the bridesmaids all go for their dress fittings and get everything they need for the big day. ie jewelry, flowers, shoes, etc

4.Lend an ear when the bride wants to/needs to vent, no matter what the topic!Generally keep the bride sane during wedding planning.

5.Can help with addressing Invitations, choosing colors, cake, decor, attend the Expo...

6.Make sure the bridesmaids know where they need to be and at what time on the big day. Also, inform the bridesmaids about all pre-wedding events and parties.

7.Plan the bachelorette party with the other bridesmaids.Keep a record of all gifts and give the list to the bride for Thank You cards.

8.At the ceremony, stand next to the bride while she exchanges vows and hold her bouquet during the ring part of things.

9.Stand in the receiving line. May be announced with the Best Man.

10.Bustle the bride's train for the party. Also, help the bride change clothes for the honeymoon and take charge of the dress until the bride returns.

11.She may dance with the best man during or after the couple's first dance. Also, can give a toast after the best mans'.

Generally keep the bride sane during the wedding itself and help her truly ENJOY the most wonderful and anticipated day of her life...so far.

Marci Jewelry Diamond Dash

2009-08-29T15:13:00.000-07:00

Picture of Brad Buckles with the gang from Marci Jewelry and Kathy & Eddie Redman of Grand Event Rentals!

Bridesclub.com

2009-08-29T14:43:00.000-07:00

Check out all the great stuff at www.bridesclub.com

Upcoming wedding expos in the Puget Sound; Tacoma and Lynnwood.

Download a free wedding planner!

Great ideas and discussions!

Planning a Fall Wedding?

2009-08-28T12:48:00.000-07:00

Have you considered the fall for your wedding as opposed to a traditional Spring Wedding. My husband and I got married in December....and incorporated many holiday themes into the decor and catering. You could do the same for a fall wedding.

For one thing, a wedding during off-peak times, especially in late fall, can not only save you money, but it can also provide you with exciting venue options, dress choices and colors. Your options for fall wedding ideas are unlimited, and you can be confident that your wedding will stand out.

As far as fall themes and decor, take full advantage of the change of season. Ideas for a natural fall wedding would be to include real fall leaves and flowers in table decorations. Your bouquet can pop with blazing fall colors. And how about potpourri or fall wreaths as party favors?

As you choose a venue, let nature be your guide. Possible locations for a natural fall wedding include a park, an orchard or even a winery. Wherever you choose, make sure the venue has a good view of the turning leaves, and take the date into account. Leaves will change depending on where you live. Usually here in the Seattle area early October is a beautiful time of many colored leaves.

Also prepare for rainy weather if the ceremony will be outside. Before signing a contract with a venue, discuss alternate plans with the potential venue in case of rain, and find out if they can move inside on short notice. You could also make plans with a good decorating compny to provide tents, etc in case of inclement weather. (We do have enough of that around here in the Fall) To play it safe for an outdoor ceremony, arrange to have a sturdy canopy covering the ceremony area. Then invest in large umbrellas for yourself and your guests so they can move from the ceremony area to the reception area without getting wet.

Sponsors of the Tacoma Fall Wedding Expo

2009-08-28T12:41:00.000-07:00

Here are some of the sponsors for our Tacoma Expo coming up on September 12 and 13.

Grand Event Rentals http://www.grandrents.com

Marci Jewelry http://www.marcijewelry.com

Gallucci's Catering http://www.galluccis.com

Men's Wearhouse http://www.menswearhouse.com

Tacoma Fall Wedding Expo

2009-08-27T15:14:00.000-07:00

September 12-13, 2009
Tacoma Dome Exhibition Hall
2727 East D Street, Tacoma, WA

Fashion Shows Daily

Hours
Saturday: 9:30 am to 5 pm Sunday: 10:30 am to 4 pm

Tickets: $15.00 (plus applicable facility fees)

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2009-08-19T14:46:00.000-07:00

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Marci Jewelry Diamond Dash

2009-08-18T14:00:00.000-07:00

Dear Friends of Brides Club,

We are writing to personally invite everyone to participate in a high tech treasure hunt for a $20,000 Lazare Diamond Ring hidden somewhere in Seattle. We have partnered up with the folks running the Marci Diamond Dash on Saturday, August 29th and we want to give everyone the chance to join in on the fun!!!

The Marci Diamond Dash is a city-wide treasure hunt brought to you by Marci Jewelry. In this high tech treasure hunt teams of two will be solving clues and riddles delivered to each team's cell phone via text message! The game is totally FUN and totally FREE!! Some lucky team of two will be celebrating at Jillian's Billiard Club (apx 1PM) with a Lazare diamond ring worth $20k!! The Marci Diamond Dash will kick off at the Seattle Center under the east side of the Space Needle at 10AM and teams will get ready to run, bike and dash around Seattle for a hidden $20,000 Lazare diamond ring!

So you must be thinking how can I win a spot to compete for a $20,000 Lazare diamond? Good question! Everyone has to sign up to play at http://www.marcidiamonddash.com/ to submit their story of why they should win one of the limited spots in the contest.

If spots are limited, how can I be sure to win one? As a member of the Brides Club community you are privileged to a keyword that will enter you in an exclusive pool of candidates. When submitting your story you must include the codeword, "DIAMOND09BC" to be placed in the special candidate pool.

When will I find out if I'm selected? You will receive an email confirming your spot within a couple of days. The contest will only be accepting entries until Thursday August 27th and by the nature of limited spots, the earlier you enter, the greater your chances of being accepted.

We are very excited to be a part of this event. We hope that a Brides Club community member wins!! If you do, you'll have to take us out for a nice candle lit dinner to thank us!!

Best of luck! We'll see you on Saturday, August 29th!!

Thanks,

Brides Club

Seattle Fall Wedding Expo

2009-08-17T15:08:00.000-07:00

Join us for the Seattle Fall Wedding Expo this weekend, August 22 and 23rd, at the Seattle Center Exhibition Center. Saturday 10-5 and Sunday 11-4. 2 for 1 tickets are available at http://www.bridesclub.com

Over 100 wedding related companies with beautiful displays ready to help you plan the perfect wedding! 2 wedding dress shops are doing a huge gown sale, so come ready to buy a great dress and a great price! "Proms and Promises" and "Princess Bride Couture".

Daily Fashion Shows!

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Have you ever wondered?

2009-08-17T15:06:00.000-07:00

The average wedding costs $18,874 with 186 guests.

The average second wedding costs $12,000,
but the couples spend nearly double first
time couples on their honeymoons.

In almost half of U.S. weddings either the
bride or groom has been married previously.

The wedding ring has traditionally been
worn on the third finger of the left
hand because it was believed that a vein
in this finger ran directly to the heart.

The third finger of the left hand has
become the customary wedding-ring finger
for all English-speaking cultures.

80% of brides plan formal weddings.

74% of all brides receive a diamond
engagement ring. 60% of women are
involved in picking out their engagement
ring, while 3% actually pick it themselves.

In 2000, the average bride was 24 years old and the average groom was 28.

Only 4% of men asked for the parents' approval for their bride's hand in marriage.

20% of men proposed on one knee.

6% of men proposed to their girlfriends over the phone.

The most frequent number of bridesmaids in a wedding is 4 (including the maid of honor).

62% of weddings have a flower girl, while 56% have a ring bearer.

Check out one of our Expo Sponsors: Grand Event Rentals

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Early Bird Special From Elegant Images for Seattle Wedding Expo

2009-08-14T11:34:00.001-07:00

The Seattle Wedding Expo is coming up Aug. 22nd and 23rd. We decided to give you a head start.
We will be offering a special on all our packages!$350 off Any wedding photography package for dates Oct. 1st-April 30th.
$250 off Any wedding photography package for dates May 1st-Sept. 30th.
It gets better, you can take advantage of this special right now! That's right beat the rush and
secure your date before the show!

(Pssss.....The first 10 Brides will also receive a free engagement session.)
Chat with you soon!
Carrie Stark
Elegant Images Photography
www.e-iphoto.com
www.e-iphoto.blogspot.com
www.starknakedphoto.com
425.361.2488

So You're Getting Married

2009-08-14T11:30:00.000-07:00

I have some good news and some bad news.

First the good news: if approached correctly, married life will be the most glorious,
blessed, and rewarding time spent with another person. Words are inept at trying to
explain the love, the trust, and the respect that are developed in a successful marriage.
Happy marriages deepen and get better with time.

Now the bad news: if not approached correctly, you have a 50 percent chance of getting
a divorce. That doesn't count marriages that don't end in divorce but are not happy.So now what? Consider this question:

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